Become Sober Secure
Nurture your garden of secure attachment
I’m on a mission.
I’m the author of The Mind-Body Guide to the Twelve Steps and Sober Secure, and I want to bring everything we know about mind-body healing to the world of recovery.
I want to imbue addiction treatment with the deepest wisdom from the fields of psychology, somatics, neurobiology, and spirituality. I want to make recovery spaces more trauma informed and attuned to what really helps people heal.
I wrote Sober Secure for people in recovery, for their partners, for clinicians working in addiction treatment, and for anyone wishing to cultivate strong and vibrant relationships through the power of secure attachment.
“This is a book that is long overdue, a book I wish I had when I first got into recovery in 1994 and every year since.”
—Dan Griffin, author of A Man’s Way through the Twelve Steps
You’re sober.
Now what?
You’ve done the hard work to get sober. You’ve gone through treatment, attended meetings. You’ve done a fearless moral inventory, and you’ve improved your conscious contact.
Now’s the time for the next level—
Time to find the relationship you’ve always dreamed of (or maybe the one you’ve never even allowed yourself to imagine). Time to discover the joys of sober sex, where you can stay in your body even as your mind is blown.
Time to heal the deepest wounds that underscore addiction. Time to find a path to Spirit in the lusciousness of your embodiment.
Time to listen to your heart and follow your longing. Time to grow your window of capacity to take on whatever sober life might throw you.
Time to be SOBER SECURE—> Secure attachment, vibrant sex, loving relationships.
In Sober Secure, you’ll learn to:
Discover your attachment patterns and move toward earned secure attachment
Transform the chronic shame that fuels isolation and relapse risk
Regulate your nervous system with simple somatic tools
Trade isolating self-reliance for healthy interdependence without losing your agency
Interrupt negative cycles and improve communication with your partner
Cultivate embodied pleasure, passion, and sensuality
“Nina Pick brings love, connection, and compassion to the complex process of substance abuse recovery.”
—Susan McConnell, senior trainer for the IFS Institute and author of Somatic Internal Family Systems Therapy
“Sober Secure is a much-needed resource for the alcohol-free community.”
—Dr. Brooke Scheller, Doctor of Clinical Nutrition and author of How to Eat to Change How You Drink
The Sober Secure Principles
Love matters:
Attachment is critical to our survival. We all need love, safety, attuned touch, and a sense of belonging.
Love heals:
Underlying addiction are early attachment wounds. The remedy for addiction is love.
Love is divine:
When we connect with the power of attachment, we also connect with a power greater than ourselves, the force of love.
Love is sacred:
All aspects of relationship—including touch, sexuality, and difficult conversations—can be infused with reverence and a sense of the sacred.
Love is embodied:
Attachment isn’t something that we reach through cognitive understanding alone. It needs to be felt and experienced.
Love is life-force:
As our nervous system achieves greater regulation, we start to expand our capacity for joy and presence. We connect with the greater web of life that supports our recovery and that our recovery in turn supports.
Love can blossom:
No matter your background, you can develop your capacity for secure attachment.
